things that make me go hmmmmm..

A i sit here and go through yet another wedding website, another pinterest board, and more wedding DIY stuff, I keep comming across the same few things. And they make me think/say "what the..." or "why would anyone ever do that" or even "someone actullay did that at their wedding ::Shudders::". Id like to share a few of these things with you. you let me know if im insane/crazy/ultra conservative in my thinking. 1. Boudoir photos/photo sessions: Im sorry, what is the appeal of this. yes so that your kids can some day find these hiding in the back of a closet, so that your extra nosy family members can accidentally come across them. I mean who is he gonna show them to? WILL he show them to anyone. To me photos are meant to be shared and viewed by lots of people in order to share a memory or a date/place in time. TO take photos that no one will ever see other than the photographer, editor, you and significant other, to me seems pointless. And I feel like every website I go to, go thorugh, I feel like this idea is being crammed down my throat. Ugh. Im so sick of seeing it. Im also not into sharing my naked/nearly nakedness with anyone other than me or my significant other. hell most days I try to hide from the mirror!! 2. Messy hair: okay ladies, this is your wedding day. you should look beautiful and polished, not like you just rolled out of bed. UGH! 3. Monograms everywhere: on the napkins, the tablecloths, the candles, the dance floor, on the cake, etc. Granted a monogram here or there is okay, but if you need it all over, its like wow, look at out initials. or damm i really need to remember what my new last name is gonna be. LOL! 4. White/off white bridal party dresses: lets just go with umm no. the only one in white should be the bride. just the way i see it. its a preference and an opinion. 5. trash the dress photo sessions: i don't know about you, but my wedding dress is something I will treasure forever. i don't want to trash it.... ever. why you would want to wear it shred it soak it dirty it in mud etc i will never know. It just baffles me. That's all I got. the same five things over and over and over again. I guess I'm just so tired of seeing them as I do more web research for things I can do myself to save money etc. And also as I look for vendors. Its hard to find a vendor when you don't live near your wedding. we are having a semi-destination wedding. So trying to make an appointment to see someone etc is difficult. I try to cram as much as I can in to short periods of time when I am in that area. which is only once every few months. So the interwebs are my key to all of this. On the upside (cause I need a positive spin after all that negativity) I have done a lot from a distance and have saved a ton of money by doing some stuff myself instead of paying someone to do it for me. Also having such a long lead time until the wedding also helps. Our save the dates are going in the mail in the morning. meant to do it today, but i was glued to my computer working from home all day. so have to make sure i do that tomorrow. One of my bridesmaids was able to spare a couple of hours yesterday and helped me assemble them and stuff them in envelopes with labels and stamps. so that was cool. :-) I love spending time with my bridesmaids. :-)

Hallmark holiday or not... Happy Valentines Day!

Today is what most people call a made up holiday, or a hallmark holiday. Its valentines day. A lot of people poo-poo it saying its nonsense, etc. A lot of single people walk around miserable. It is statistically the one day out of the year when there are the most breakups. So all that being said, Happy Valentines Day!!! I enjoy the day by staying home, instead of attempting to go out for dinner (which is damm near impossible), cooking a dinner for my loving husband-to-be, and all in all just spending time with him this evening. We've had some disasterous valentines days in the past. like pats mother wanting to go to the pallisads mall for dinner at the last minute, and we wandered all over the mall from one resturaunt to another trying to get a table, then they found the craptastic Chinese buffet, which was aweful for me, because I dont like chinese food a whole lot, our table was next to the bathroom and the food was not so good. She's tried this before, and after the mall incident, Going out for Valentines day with her and pats little sister was immedietly put on the Hell-F^King-NEver again list. Weve gone out for Valentines Dinner a couple of times, and it just doesnt work out well. So we just stay home, and I try to make a nice dinner. TOnight we will have grilled prime rib steaks, homemade spinach au-gratin, homemade bread, and a steakhouse salad. Valentines day isn't just a day for couples in love, its a day to celebrate the love you have for everyone in your life.. Friends & Family alike. Treasure those people and let them know you love them today, especially if they don't have anyone to spend the day with! Trust me when I tell you it will make a huge difference to them. To All my friends and family, I love you and wish you a wonderful happy valentines day! I wish you all Love & Friendship, not just today, but every single day from now until forever!